How to Unlock Your Best Decision-Making

On the fence regarding a decision you must make? I know I find myself there a lot, dithering around on what to choose. That stress-inducing, dreaded decision making isn't something we should elude, though, as it allows us to create a new direction for our lives.  But those big decisions require a strategy for the best outcome and the most meaningful direction. If you have a big decision to make anytime soon, don't just roll the dice! Instead, follow these streamlined decision making ways to create the optimal result for you!

Don't just roll the dice when it comes to those decisions! Instead follow this streamlined decision making plan to create the optimal result for you! ( #health #decisions

Creating the Best Decisions For Yourself

Choices can overwhelm and it is better to keep the smaller decisions ones not to ponder too much over, but those big choices that have bigger consequences deserve your attention.  Let these steps take you there:

1.  Stay calm and confident.  I probably don't need to tell you that making decisions in a calm state of mind will probably lead to a better outcome, but it is also better for your mental health, too.  It will provide you with a sense of control over the circumstances of your life and most certainly a better sense of control over your thoughts and emotions. You are able to focus on the right details to make a better decision and allow you to better communicate your needs to other people creating a more effective, intelligent choice.

One way to stay calm if you are stressed about a decision to make is to have a little conversation with yourself. What you say to yourself can be just as important as what you tell others.  The mindset you create during pressure situations is critical and the thoughts your formulate in your head during stressful or emotional moments can either help you calm yourself or heighten your anxiety.  Besides, the more you stew on negative thoughts, the more power you give them. Many of our negative thoughts are just that—thoughts.  It has not even happened and most likely won't.

Try saying positive things to yourself to feel more centered and in control.  Something like these statements:
  • I can and will do my best.
  • I can handle this.
  • I am calm.
  • I am focused.
Tap here for some great methods that can help create a calming effect.

2. Don't overlook the details.  Make sure you understand the decision at hand completely.  It is paramount that you pay attention to the details and gather the facts as sometimes within those details the decision becomes suddenly clear. Or, if you get the facts wrong, the worst decision could be made!

Here are some questions to get the ball rolling:
  • What is the time limit to make the choice? 
  • Who is involved with the decision and how does it affect others? 
  • Has anyone or anything been overlooked?  
  • What is my ultimate desired outcome for me and for everyone else involved?
  • What could I and others gain and lose from each path I could take?
  • What’s preventing me from having the outcome I desire?  How can I fix that?
  • Where can I compromise or ask others to compromise?
The answers may take some time to formulate but take the effort to come up with the answers and write them down.  It is amazing what happens when you start writing even if you don't think you have anything to say.

3.  Choose advisers carefully.  Whenever I can't make an easy decision, I ask for advice. Others, after all, may see the best solution more clearly than I.  But, I’ve found that getting too much advice can start to muddle the process.  Limit yourself to one or two advisers who happen to have experience with the situation.

4.  Create an imaginary friend.  This one always works for me.  I pretend a friend is asking my advice for the very dilemma or decision I need to make.  The emotional response is lessened when I am playing the role as "the friend" giving advice. Most times, the right choice becomes much clearer.

5.  Disconnect. Force yourself offline and even turn off your phone to give yourself some quiet uninterrupted time to let your mind clear. Go for a walk alone. Just moving your body in a steady rhythm can help create energy and maybe a possible solution or two.

6.  Sleep on it.  If you have the time with the decision to make, ensure to do your best to get sleep. Allow yourself to get a break from thinking and allow your brain to recharge so that you wake up alert and clear-headed. Your self-control, attention, and memory are all reduced when you don’t get enough sleep making the best decision less likely. The choice to make may be a lot more clear to you after a break from it and resting your mind.

Try these tips to get a good nights rest.

Great Reads For Decision-Making Tools

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  1. Staying calm is great advice. I have never made a good decision when I am angry.

    1. Good point, Danni! Anger can really alter making the best choice.

  2. Decision making is never easy... it's good to take the time to think calmly by going for a walk... that always helps me. I also find organizing releases tension and relaxes me... ♡ xox

    1. Organizing is something I find myself doing, too, Launna. Somehow focusing on something else that you can easily control helps, doesn't it?

  3. I always have to tell myself to take a deep breath and if possible put off big decisions for a day or I can truly think through the decision!

    1. If you can, extra time can really be beneficial, Sarah. Thanks for adding in!

  4. Great guide! Love the idea of using an imaginary friend!

    1. Works well for me Annamarie! Do try it.

  5. I'm a terrible decision-maker, Lori, so I found this really helpful. By 'terrible' I mean I just find them difficult to make. I'm afraid of making the wrong decision so they make me feel quite stressed out.
    I really like 'invent an imaginary friend'. I'm going to try that one!

    1. Decisions that affect others are the toughest for me! Hope your imaginary friend is a wise one, Helen!

  6. Good decisionmaking can make or break your life so it is critical to understand how to make the best decisions for yourself. I am so delighted that you shared these helpful decision making strategies with us at the Healthy Happy Green and Natural Party! I am pinning and sharing!

    1. Very good point, Deborah! Thanks for sharing it.

  7. This is great and always great to have the tips and advice in my subconscious mind to bring forward the next time I really need to make a decision. I am always changing my mind on things. Not good. Thank you so much for linking up to Share With Me. I hope to see you again tomorrow for another great round #sharewithme

    1. I certainly hope the strategies will help you, Jenny!